One of the most important characteristics of a godly person is
faithfulness. That means to be faithful to your friends. The edition of
our book Covenant Relationships in Hebrew is called, Faithful Friend.
Yeshua said that the ultimate goal of discipleship was to produce friends
for Himself (John 15:15).
"Pursue love." I Corinthians 14:1
To pursue love means to pursue people by means of love. Being a
faithful friend demands initiative and effort. It does not just wait for
someone to come along. It reaches out to demonstrate faithfulness to
others. Saul (Paul) blessed Onisiphorus because he searched and found
Paul when he was in prison (II Timothy 1:17). Paul also rejoiced to do
the same thing; he left a successful ministry opportunity to search out
his friend Titus. Finding Titus was considered a greater "triumph" than
success in ministry (II Corinthians 2:14-15).
"He loved them to the end." John 13:1
Yeshua loved His disciples all the way to the end. Being a faithful
friend involves a process. It is a series of tests. It has a price to
pay. That price increases along the way until it demands faithfulness
even unto the death (Revelation 2:10). Faithfulness is a long path of
dialogue, confrontation, forgiveness, disappointment, pain and sacrifice.
To be faithful is to go all the way with another person.
"If your brother sins against you, go to him and rebuke him
between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have won your
brother." I Corinthians 14:1
This verse more than any other describes the process of covenant dialogue
from one faithful friend to another when there is a problem. The purpose
is not just moral confrontation but an effort at restoring relationship.
To be faithful you must continually enter into honest loving
conversations to correct problems and restore relationships. There is no
such thing as human relationship without problems.
"If you love Me, keep My commandments." John 14:15 (13:34,
15:9, 15:10, 15:12, 15:16
Love is something we are commanded to do. It is based on obedience, not
on emotions. Love has emotions but is not dependent on them. It is not
even dependent on other people. Trust is dependent on others'
trustworthiness. However, we can love people before they are trustworthy.
Yeshua loved the whole world (John 3:16), but He trusted no one (John
All people are basically unfaithful in their "human" nature,
but God is faithful to us in spite of our unfaithfulness to Him (Romans
3:4). Likewise to be faithful to someone is a unilateral decision on our
part. Be faithful even if no one else in the world is. Choose to walk in
loyalty and integrity; in humility and grace.
A good relationship demands the mutual faithfulness of both sides.
However, your being faithful to that relationship is your side alone. A
good husband will decide to be a good husband to his wife regardless of
what kind of wife she is (and vice versa). We do what is right "as
unto the Lord" (Ephesians 5:21, 22; 6:1, 6:7).
"A brother is born for adversity." Proverbs 17:17
To be faithful is to be aware when a friend is in need or in trouble.
That is the time to run to be close. It is hard to demonstrate
faithfulness when everything is going well for the other. When the going
gets rough is when we get going to help. Those are the choice
"Make for yourself friends through unfaithful mammon...."
Yeshua emphasizes here the simple point that friends are more important
than money. He does not mean to "buy" friends in a manipulative,
controlling manner. Rather, money can be a tool in building
relationships. Anything you can buy with money is less important than
friendship. Everything in this world is temporary. Only faithful
relationships are eternal.
Money is not a means to purchase goods for ourselves, but a means to bless
people. People are often in financial need. Money can be used to
demonstrate faithfulness. When you use money to help others, you raise
the opportunity to develop trust.
"Many a man declares his own loving-kindness, but a man of
faithfulness, who can find?." Proverbs 20:6
In this world today, many people speak of love, but a person who is
faithful to his friends is a rare commodity. Let's be one of them.